Good Reminder. Sacrificial love, like Christ loved his bride the church and gave himself up for her, even to death, even death on a cross.
“25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,
30 for we are members of his body.
31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
32 This is a profound mystery but I am talking about Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself”
1 John 4:10
“This is how we know love: that He sent his son as a sacrifice.”
“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus […] he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant […] he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross!”
The idea of maintaining healthy “boundaries” (as popularized in the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud) while embracing a Christian worldview based in sacrificial love, has always seemed highly paradoxical to me.
I can understand not sacrificing for someone if it’s in their best interest, as is commonly the case in dealing with addictive behavior for example, but I would classify that as tough love more so than boundaries. Maybe I’m just getting too caught up in the semantics, but I feel like boundaries has a somewhat self serving connotation as it considers relationships from the point of view of protecting one’s own self, which seems to conflict with humility and capitulation to the point of “death, even death on a cross”.
2 Peter 2:10
“After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.”
2 Peter 3:8
“With the Lord a day is like a thousand years.”
Ahhh…makes sense now. Haha.
“A wise son stores up for the winter”
“I will tear down my barns and build larger ones and there I will store all my grain and goods…and I will say eat drink be merry. But God said to him you fool this very night your soul is demanded of you.”
One’s wrong the other’s right. The difference is motivation.